Monday, February 20, 2012

Reflection and Discussion Ch3 Q1

      What is the craziest thing you have ever done for love?  (I answered this for not just romantic love, but even love of friends/family)
Ignored who I am and became/did (or tried to) whoever/whatever others wanted me to be/do.  I’ve tried to let go and just be who I think I’m wanted or expected to be; to the point that I’ve not been sure who I really am.  I’ve turned myself upside down and inside out trying to be worthy of love and turned up alone and empty every time.
I also have the bad habit of cyber stalking people to be more involved in their life.  Like somehow if I know what’s going on that makes me a part of it or they’ll give me a chance to more a part of things.  I guess you could add “stalking” to that too, then, because before we had the cyber methods, I still just hung around in places I didn’t belong or wasn’t really a part of just hoping I might get invited in from the sidelines to the real goings on.  Yet, ironically, if I ever did I was so overcome with anxiety (getting in trouble, doing/saying something wrong, etc.) that I couldn’t enjoy being part of things.  I see the same thing in my relationship with my daughters.  I want so much to be a part of things that they end up embarrassed by me.
I've also allowed people to do things I knew were wrong; like physically or emotionally hurt me; just to hold on to them.  I've made myself worthless in the hope of being worthy. 
I sacrifice my time, my needs...me to be who others want me to be.

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